Change often starts with thinking about both what you want and what you don’t want.
You can make change easier by replacing ‘don’t want’ thoughts with what you want instead . The momentum of being clearly focused on what you really want makes it easier to take the right steps forward.
Here is a real-life example:
He wanted to stop drinking on weeknights.
Aristotle said, “Nature abhors a vacuum.” If you stop one thing, what will you replace it with?
I helped him focus all his thoughts on his goal – what he wanted instead of drinking on weeknights. This helped him start a new thought-pattern to begin to engrain in his mind.
“What do you want MORE than drinking on weeknights?” I asked.
He got clear.
“I want:
– To feel sharp in the morning
– To spend quality time with my family at night instead of vegging out, watching tv and falling asleep
– To feel proud of myself and in control”
Then I asked him to send me a follow-up text the next morning.
It read:
“When I woke up, I noticed I told myself, ‘I had a few beers last night’, but, then I realized I didn’t! I then noticed, I do feel 15% sharper!”*
(He almost missed it, which would have made it infinitely easier to slip back into his old mindset!)
With time, consistency and a positive focus, new thoughts and experiences become your new engrained mindset and habits.
What do you want more than that thing you’re experiencing?
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*Examples are inspired by real people. We all have the amazing ability to experience positive change once we become aware of what we are doing, accept it as normal human stuff and then choose a focus that supports progress and fulfillment. The names and details is our examples are altered to maintain complete anonymity. (Many times the stories are our own.)
